Feel it. Don’t fill it
An old post to share,
Days back, one of my respected and adorable professor had a message posted on her social networking profile saying – "… making do with the little things that make her happy rather than yearn for what is not … but the little things can always become bigger with time and fill the vacant spaces …". Apropos this very statement and the messages to follow, a gentleman summarizes them in this way – "The meaning is quite simple: feel it, don’t fill it! Stay in the absence." This gave me my topic for this very post – Feel it, Don’t Fill it.
A topic well open to different perceptions, comments and conclusions etc. What I am jotting down, is my perception of "feel, don’t fill" (abbreviated as FDF) and any comments to it, in favor or against are more than welcome! Just wishing to keep the flames & fumes a little low.
By the way, the reference for FDF can be in vast senses – Eating, Loving, Doing, Profession etc. But no matter that the domain is, the essential part is – FEEL. What we eat, Whom we love, What we do and What we want to be are all critical pieces of life’s jigsaw puzzle, which we are trying to solve every day, every hour & at every moment. Nothing is encrypted, nothing is complex, just the randomization is what baffles us. Looking back the dots can easily be connected, but looking forward it’s just some incidents (pleasant & sad) waiting to be unfolded at their right time – some making sense, and some just filling our time. Things happen, things strike, people come and people go but nothing is eternal, nothing is so pious as the feeling of beholding the time for that very moment. We fill our vacant spaces with small or big things, but how much do we feel their presence? Little things, hardly taking our attention and Big things trying to fit in small voids. Or, are they just psychic structures that resemble the lost essential aspect (Theory of Holes, A.H. Almaas). All in all, feeling is what creates the difference between having and possessing it.
In a social life of ever changing landscape, filling has become a daily activity. We fill our appetite, we fill our schedules, our lives, our pockets, our accounts … but how much do we consider the feeling behind the deeds that we do and perform. How much of it fluctuates between the ‘consciousness of doing’ and ‘sub-consciousness of waiting to be finished’ and the real ‘conscience within us’. Feel factor is missing from our activities, from our share to this world. All in a hurry, a race where none will win, but many may lose!
Today’s evening was spent in a perfect way to put forth the meaning of ‘feeling and not the filling’ (and continue this blog). It all started like a regular day but no office! After a brisk freshen-up schedule, I went straight to Fitness First for a healthy start of the day. I wanted to feel the strenuous workout, not just finish it as time pass. Finishing my circuit, I felt like pumped up to the core. Wrapped my stuff and ran to ‘Juice Junction’ to have some healthy juices and fruit salad. By the time, I regained my breath and some weight, it was already early evening. And, then the thought of spending the evening at some ‘mall’ or ‘window shopping’ trapped me! But, if not this .. then what? I absolutely didn’t want to fill my evening with them and feel nothing out of it. I buzzed one of my friend, and enquired about a hotel she was referring earlier in context to French cuisines & decor – Seven Hotel. It was all of a sudden plan to visit a thoughtfully crafted boutique design hotel catering to all my needs for an evening in tranquille. Driving some 20Kms, the moment me and my friend Vid entered the hotel, the ambience & aroma felt so calm and relaxing as a welcome message to deep breathe and let your worries, tensions go aside for the time you are here!
Taking a small round of the facilities available for guests, we decided to go for C’est la vie – a restaurant offering simple and good French food in a bistrot atmosphere. Ambience was amazing, and the first look seemed a real treat to eyes! We sat outside in open air, and here is a menu card hand written on a black piece of wood. The names surely amused me, but thanks to subscripted ingredients in English that I could decide my item for the evening! We had a salad and some drinks but more importantly we were accompanied by Mr. Vincent Structure, Restaurant Manager and a jolly good native of France! He invited us to have a look on his ongoing “Ciels de Paris” exhibition – a great collection of well shot photos! Soon, the time flew by and the evening turned into night. A little cloudy night and we realized that its already been 3-4 hours sitting at the hotel. But deep inside, I was relaxed, calm and decibels away from the pollution & traffic noise! An evening just sublimed into a warm night with a sense of feel good factor, and the things that I avoided to play as fillers!
Looking forward for more such undecided sudden plans.